看到一个华裔作家两个儿子先后离世的新闻，很是感慨，特别是读到她的原生家庭的故事，想象她可能对她自己小孩带来的伤害，很是心疼小孩子们。
我每天看着我的桌上满满的小孩子们从小到大的照片，各种回忆都会浮现，哪怕一天只有一秒钟的时间，足以感觉幸福满满。
然后突然想起自己的母亲，她的桌上从来没有我的照片，当我拿出我二十多岁照片时，她说她不知道我那个时候是那样的发型。 好吧，当我拿出我的婴儿时期照片时，她居然说那不是我，没有认出来。当时我是有点郁闷的，但是仔细想想，这也许并不令人吃惊。她退休前是高中教师，非常认真工作的一个人，好像还有许多出差。我们小时候都是从18个月开始全托（寄宿幼儿园）到上小学，那个年龄段父母的爱绝对是缺乏的。那时候的全托是很贵的，一个小孩就是一个人的工资，幸好孩子们的年龄差，不是同时都全托。
后来母亲说，我一周回来一次就周日，非常粘人(难道二三岁的小孩子粘父母不是正常的吗？），她不胜其烦，恨不得马上送我回托儿所。有时候父母双双出差，我连一周一次都见不到他们，被老师领回家，那个时候的老师真好啊。
后来上学后在家的日子，母亲工作中的烦恼比如班级里的学生调皮捣蛋不好好上课之类也会带到家里来，对她自己的小孩子有点喜怒无常。虽然我从不怀疑母亲对我们的爱，但是伤害也是确确实实存在的，她不是一个敏感的人，完全无意识她的行为对非常幼小孩子的伤害。在长大后我指出她这些事情，她还老是说，为什么我不检查自己，而把责任推在大人身上。好吧。
至于我父亲也是没有多少帮助，基本上是煽风点火的角色。
我后来发现我和自己小孩的关系也会反映出我原生家庭的问题。我自己花了很久时间，审视自己的原生家庭，以及和自己小孩的关系，这是一个治愈的过程，非常不容易，幸运的是，我非常早意识到这个问题，自己学习并作出许多改变，现在我和自己小孩子们的关系非常紧密。但是和母亲的关系一直比较疏离。
我早就不怪她了，时代造成，她没有这个视野也没有这个能力，她只能做她认为对的事情。幸好她是一个本质非常善良的人，也有对自己孩子足够的爱，现在的晚年也足够幸福。
所以我很理解那个华裔作家，她得到的伤害可能不能修复，她的爱自己和爱小孩的能力可能也大打折扣，她对她自己孩子的伤害也许她自己也是无能为力。
她不停地写作就是本能地在治疗自己，可惜悲剧还是发生了。
心疼这个当中的每一个人。
附： 三岁时在宋庆龄上海中福会托儿所
my hubby really likes these sneakers. this is his second pair.
- Singapore
Seems to be a nice product for the price. Fits and is well constructed.
- Liberia
I have wide feet and ordered extra wide. They fit great.The sneaker looks fine too.
- Switzerland
These shoes fit as I expected, comfortable to wear and look good. Received in the quoted time.
- Liberia
Best walking shows I've owned. Last pair lasted about a year and have now been relegated to mowing the yard.
- Guam
I have a really hard time finding shoes that fit and are comfortable. These were great right out of the box. Very happy.
- Switzerland
So I've had 4 pairs of these, great shoes. I am pushing 325 pounds and a wood worker and these last me 8 months easy, wearing 16-18 hours a day.
- Switzerland
Have worn Nike Air Monarchs for about 15 years. They are my favorites. Over the years have increased the width to a 4E to provide more toe room. Works great.
- Switzerland
fits true to size. Matches the size of all other Nike shoes that are owned. It is about half a size smaller than most rebook brand shoes.Very comfortable. Used for all day and a little CC running.
- Switzerland
Ive had these before which is the reason i bought them, yes they are squicky so just add baby powder under the sole and on top and itll fix that, i got the 4E and dont worry about the 4E(M) its just men, they feel like ur on a cloud
- Switzerland
2024-01-12 08:58:44--
The first time I bought a Bluetooth headset, it's very good to use, no noise, good sound quality, and very comfortable in the ear. Recommended!
2024-01-12 08:58:12--
Headphones are very good in workmanship, good in quality, fast in logistics, good in sound quality, comfortable to wear, and recommended for purchase.
2024-01-12 08:58:05--
Battery life is good. The touch effect is very responsive and doesn't get stuck. Appearance material: lightweight and fashionable, with high appearance.
2024-01-12 08:56:13--
Its also very convenient to switch between the previous song and the next song. The length of the line is also just right. It wont slip off when worn, and its just right when its stuck on the ear. It wont hurt after a long time.
2024-01-12 08:55:21--
I was really not disappointed after using it. I was very satisfied. After taking out the earphone, I connected the phone with a very good sound quality. Friends who still need a high face value can buy it with confidence
2024-01-12 08:52:51--
Shipping a little long, the quality of the shoe is excellent and does not have a scratch or a fold, the only problem the box, it has come practically destroyed
2024-01-12 08:50:27--
Shoes where not correct size. Not a true 12 size!
2024-01-12 08:50:08--
bit cheap looking but comfy
2024-01-12 08:48:26--
Great shoes
2024-01-12 08:48:12--
Arrived on time.
2024-01-12 08:48:12--
Thank you so much
2024-01-12 08:47:54--
Spot on very satisfied
2024-01-12 08:47:19--
True to size. Box was smashed
2024-01-04 19:04:43--
slippers are very soft, soft fur is very comfortable, very warm to wear at home in winter
2024-01-04 19:03:16--
These shoes are amazing. Note, they do smell like sharpie when you first get them, but if you let them air outside out of the box, they don’t smell after that. Wonderful shoes, identical dups. This is the second pair I’ve order so far. My first pair were the black and white spiked pair! Definitely worth the money!!!!
2024-01-04 19:02:00--
No right size ordered 45 1/3 i/o 45
2024-01-04 18:55:10--
Dissatisfied, product with several flaws, I thought it would be closer to the original. It was not worth the price paid
2024-01-04 18:54:12--
Stitching is a bit off but shoe is great
2024-01-04 18:47:47--
Nice shoes, color a bit off but still really nice!
2024-01-04 18:47:17--
Legit asf got them and they are perfect and they
came in 2 weeks
2024-01-04 18:40:00--
Wow fast shipping
2024-01-04 18:39:37--
Very nice! Thank you
2024-01-04 18:38:38--
Very good, very satisfied!
2024-01-04 18:38:33--
True to size fast shipping!!!
2024-01-04 18:35:39--
Logistics is fast and shopping is enjoyable
2024-01-04 18:35:28--
Looked really nice but was too small for me.
2024-01-04 18:34:03--
So amazing, high quality, just like pictures, I would recommend this seller 100. Good communication with the seller.
2024-01-04 18:34:01--
Good product, sizing is true, no need to order a size up or down. Came with the box, tag and socks, really good quality. 10/10
2024-01-04 18:32:41--
Ok be careful, first of all I didn’t get the pair I ordered, turns out you can’t open a dispute until the item has been marked received however by marking the item as received you confirm you are happy with the item. The sellers response was for me to buy another pair and they will send the correct pair I initially ordered. Thus ending up with 3 pairs. As for the glasses, wast of money. Arms are crooked, squeaky, and nose pieces rattle. The lens are so dark you can really only wear them if you intend on staring at the sun directly. Lol not really funny but suppose what I get for trying to save on designer glasses. If you just want the look and style and don’t care about the color you may get, cos I swear they just shove any old pair in a bag and send ya, buy them. But just read these comments cos every 2nd person receives the incorrect pair. And when you try to get a refund or at least the pair you ordered, they won’t respond. Pretty shitty experience to be honest. Take my word,don’t
2024-01-04 18:32:25--
Perfect . Box was a little dented but it’s ok. Took about 2-3 weeks
2024-01-04 09:23:14--
very good product. recommended
2024-01-04 09:21:47--
I am very satisfied with the price and quality, thank you customer service, fast logistics
2024-01-04 09:21:45--
Very happy very satisfied definitely will recommend this seller thank you so much I love it
2024-01-04 09:20:33--
What can I say he lives and works in them. I am lucky to get them off his feet to sleep and bath. He is on his feet all the time. Runs a shop for cars. Hard work. All he wants are these shoes. We have tired others and they either sit in the closet or get returned.
2024-01-04 09:18:47--
Super comfortable
2024-01-04 09:18:28--
they are great. thank you!!
2024-01-04 09:16:36--
Shoes look great. The box didn’t come in good condition, but it doesn’t matter. I’ll be shopping with them again.
2024-01-04 09:13:56--
Shipping was too high
2024-01-04 09:10:06--
Came quickly to UK - bought for my daughter for Christmas.. hope she likes them.
2024-01-04 09:09:18--
Beautiful Purse Love So Much
Beautiful bag 👜 quality is incredible I loved it
2024-01-04 09:04:19--
Ordered on 4/29 and arrived 5/10. I’m impressed with this one for the price and color. I had ordered one previously from another seller and this one is a lot better when it comes to the coloring. It’s not that fake yellow. The clasp has the logo, but not as deeply imprinted, then again who’s going to be looking at the clasp on the back of your neck? This is a 10/10 for me. Great purchase
2024-01-04 09:03:13--
The upper foot is really good to look at, is a standard shoe size, versatile, but also not stuffy feet through love
2024-01-04 09:01:29--
Stable connection, clear and smooth sound.
2024-01-04 09:00:38--
Very easy to use, quick connection and good sound quality.
2024-01-04 09:00:01--
Headphones feel good, sound quality is good, and endurance is strong.
2024-01-04 08:58:39--
Feel good and resistant to dirt, consistent with the picture, not greasy or sticky with dust.
2024-01-04 08:58:38--
Headphones have good sound quality, stable signal, clear and smooth sound and good endurance.
2024-01-04 08:58:30--
The sound quality and battery life are very good, the game does not lag, and the call is clear.
2024-01-04 08:57:28--
Logistics is very fast. The sound quality is very good, listening to songs is very good, I like this earphone, and the endurance is also good.
2024-01-04 08:55:24--
The color I bought is very resistant to dirt. After ten days of use, it won't be stained with dust. Moreover, the whole earphone is wrapped tightly after being put on, and the anti-fall and anti-slip effect is very good. You can start with it.
2024-01-04 00:06:43--
The bag is simply perfect I will buy another one now
The Bag is perfect,
2024-01-04 00:06:07--
I wanted to like the wallet I order but it is so obviously cheap and fake. Will not use it and ordering another item from a different seller this time.
2024-01-04 00:06:06--
The bags are extremely low quality and not real leather. The shipping is painfully slow. You also have to put in the straps for the bag yourself. The name is not even straight on the bags. Waste of money.
2024-01-04 00:05:52--
wrong color received
2024-01-04 00:04:32--
my wife likes it
2024-01-04 00:02:38--
great wallet. packaging poorly printed and crushed box but the wallet is good quality
2024-01-04 00:02:14--
The bag came really fast. It looks very beautiful! I just don’t like the smell of the bag. It almost smells fishy. But for the rest I am very satisfied 😊
2024-01-04 00:01:04--
I love my billfold
2024-01-04 00:00:38--
Slight smell but love the bag
2024-01-03 23:59:39--
It’s perfect!!
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